Last week, I took Lottie shopping for her Halloween costume, and I was frightened by what I saw. I wasn't scared of the ghouls or goblins or the bloody skulls: the costumes are what terrified me. I expected to be slightly horrified by the teen girl costumes because they seem to have become sluttier and sluttier. But I was shocked to see that little girl costumes are starting to trend the same way. Everything seems dark and trashy and WAY too grown up.
Not only were many of the costumes too old for Lottie, but they just seemed...wrong. Why does a kid have to be"Scary Miss Muffet" or "Scary Little Bo Peep"? Why can't the choice just be a normal Muffet or Peep? And does Miss Muffet have to have an off-the-shoulder dress with chunky heels?
(This is the Bratz version of Miss Muffet, by the way. Lottie keeps insisting that she's going to get a Bratz doll from Santa for Christmas. Dream on, kid.)
I saw Lottie starting to light up at the sight of some of the costumes that were not age-appropriate, and I steeled myself to talk to her about it. Luckily, she ended up choosing a "royal princess" costume with a LONG skirt and LONG sleeves, so that conversation didn't have to happen. I'm sure some people are reading now and thinking, "A princess costume? She's going to grow up to think that men are going to ride up on a white horse and rescue her! That's so anti-feminist." Um, first of all, no. And second, no. Third, that's nuts. I grew up knowing about princesses myself, and I'm no shrinking violet. When it comes right down to it, I would rather my five year old daughter dress up like a princess than most of the other costumes I saw.
Maybe I'm old-fashioned; maybe I'm a prude. I just want my daughter to enjoy being a little girl as long as she can, and I want to enjoy it along with her. If that's wrong, so be it.